I want friends in real life..how to get them ( i have social anxiety/anxiety)?

First off do you see a therapist for your anxiety? Also do you take medication for it? I know a lot of people on here would say that medication is bad and that a lot of doctors push medications in stead of dealing with the issues at hand. However psychiatrist give medication not therapy. I your therapist recommends medication it is for a good reason. Besides desperate times call for desperate measures. Get in with a psychiatrist to get an anti anxiety medication to help calm your nerves. Then start out slowly with going out to social places. Maybe go to the grocery store and talk to the cashier while checking out. Once you feel comfortable doing that then move it up to going to like an internet cafe or a coffee house and talking to people around you. And in the end take the steps to going to a full social functioning place such as a club or your local bar. Or maybe you can meet someone at a low functioning place such as the supermarket who will invite you to a party. It is very hard to overcome social anxiety trust me I know I have it too. I hate big crowds and being surrounded by lots of people. You just have to take it one step at a time.